Unicorns Aren't Mythical ... Virgins Are-If You Say So Sir!

It is an infantile superstition of the human spirit that virginity would be thought a virtue and not the barrier that separates ignorance from knowledge.
Voltaire

A little while back my friend and I went out with a couple of guys. It wasn’t supposed to be a date. Well yeah, I know you must be thinking a girl and a guy out and no date? Well, it can happen, can’t it? Apparently not! What I was looking for was some time out, away from the grind and some enlightened company. I got all of that. No doubt the company was great. No regrets there. I really found the men very charming and they played the perfect hosts even though they weren’t supposed to. Honestly speaking, in this day and age any guy being nice and courteous is a blessing as well as a rarity!

Any way, we went out, it was a great night, greater company BUT… yes there was a BUT. Towards the end of the night, there were expectations from us. Since neither my friend, nor I had any such thing on mind, we refused.   The guys were extremely nice. Let me tell you, the majority of the guys we come across, would not have taken the hint and would have tried to impose themselves and thought that we were pretending to be “nice girls”. Keeping in mind the fuss there is about virginity in our society, they would not be too far off the mark.

Even though, we totally agree with Voltaire above, and tend to be something close to pariahs when it comes to most of the so called customs and beliefs and would probably some day part with our most sacred commodity in the most locally unconventional way, we still do not take it to the level of casualness of doing away with it just for the heck of it. It has to be with someone we really are committed to and he has to be on the same level of commitment as us.

Anyway, no complaints from the guys, they were absolute marvels, but it was neither the first nor the last time something like this has happened. It was similarly not the first nor the last time we were questioned in quite a baffled manner about it.

What intrigues men of a modern sort these days, is that a single woman, over thirty, would think twice about indulging in casual sex. Ah, why not? May be it is becoming very common these days but isn’t it still a matter of choice?

Anyway, having been face to face with the non-comprehending  you-gotta-be-kidding-me cum the-bitch-is-playing-the-virgin-game looks several times, I do not take offence any longer.

Some of the questions I am regularly put to are along the lines of:

·        So, do you never feel like doing it?

·        What do you do then?  (I have been asked how I find release, what do I do when I feel the need for it?- Ah…. Hmmm, so if I don’t feel like it, am I terribly abnormal?)

·        So, are you a lesbian? (Believe me, I have been asked that several times! I mean, man, I do not want to have sex with you does not translate in to “I want to have sex with your sister!”)

·        So you are not a lesbian then? Oh, then you must indulge in a bit of same-sex fun just to beat the need? Ohkayyy sir, please, try to understand,… Ok, on second thought, I give up. Don’t. Yes, I am abnormal …not feeling the overwhelming NEED and failing to satisfy yours in the process.  Please forgive me!